Love as a Drug & the effects on attraction

1. When women fall in eros, they get a high from brain chemicals, such as oxytocin. Successive experiences with men increase the hurdle height for the next chemical high. This tolerance leads to positive criteria like the need for 6-6-6 or more to give her the tingles.

For each high, there is a low, especially when chasing Chad. Since sexual bonds lead to emotional bonds, women who can still pair-bond experience psychic pain during each breakup. I posit that during breakups, negative criteria become ingrained. The "Steve Harvey LONGEST dating requirements list" included:

• non-smoker
• can't be anti-sugar
• must never wear sweatpants

Chads of hook-ups past likely were smokers, anti-carb, or wore sweats, so the hamster wheel latches onto these markers to avoid the withdrawal pain in the future. This rationalization allows the rollercoaster rider to continue riding rather than identify the sexual market value mismatch & switch to a monogamous strategy earlier. This model would explain why older women tend to have more requirements despite the lower SMV.

As for external factors, like peer pressure or economic requirements, they can attenuate or exacerbate the brain chemistry, but past tolerance-withdrawal remains the primary drivers. Immediate stressors like the acknowledgement of the biological clock, homelessness, or hunger can temporarily suspend these ingrained standards, but the rate of subsequent cheating and ghosting indicates that the primary drivers takes over once the stressor is alleviated. In traditional societies, threats of starvation or ostracism are persistent; therefore, the immediate and definite fear stops the rollercoaster riding from starting.

This all assumes a woman without childhood trauma, which would predate a voluntary ride on the rooster rollercoaster.

2. Assuming that the above is true, counseling, healing, and "working on oneself" are minimally effective. Just like an opiate or crack addict, recovery is tenuous & there is the lifelong temptation to lapse. This naturally leads to a counter-argument to "breaks" or hall-passes being healthy for relationships, since it would be analogous to blowing off steam with a hit of morphine.

The sensations of affairs get described with terms like their skin was on fire. That is far above the affects of a cigarette, joint, or shot of whiskey. Hence the hard drug analogy.

3. Let us assume the creation of a "spotless mind" pill that could reset the chemical high tolerances & withdrawal pains; therefore, it would restore the ability to pair bond. What approximate percent of long-term rooster roller coaster riders would get back in line for another ride? How many riders would settle down? How many previously settled women would get on the roller coaster if they thought the long term damage could be healed?